My attorney Mr. F gave me homework to do, and this is what I thought and then said out loud.
“Oh, I can’t do that this exact weekend because I am hosting a karaoke party at my yacht club.”
I’m lucky to be alive. I alternatively call my attorney my angel or my pitbull. He is both. I’ve heard tales of psychologists running from the stand in court in tears. I love and fear him for this reason. He promptly tore me apart. Told me I don’t have a yacht club anymore and to get my mind focuses. He was so correct to ball me out. Are you familiar with the scene from Iron Man 2 when they beat up the evil brother that wears all black? (Loki?) Please search it immediately for a deep laugh.
When you are contentious divorce or custody battle, it’s a goddamn fight. There is no stopping to put on a sparkly sundress and host frenemies down by Hempstead Harbor! You need to have the mindset that you will go down with the SHIP fighting!
There is no stopping to put on a sparkly sundress and drive over to the harbor to host frenemies singing. You’ve Got a Friend in Jesus. You need to have the mindset that you will go down with the SHIP fighting!
Footnote: At the time I really shouldn’t have been spending money on a sailboat or mooring or Wednesday Potluck at the club anyway. I prefer singing Madonna during her cowgirl phase.
The Lesson: Get your minds right. Your case should be your top priority…when it has to be. When it doesn’t feel free to have some fun and sail your little heart out. You may not be the best person to make that decision at the beginning of a divorce, separation, or custody disagreement. Mr. F was 100% correct in telling me that I was losing focus after years of this fight. He asked me to take some time and decide what was important to me. I got my mind right and refocused. My children are all I have ever cared about for the last 19 years. My sailboat, the old Cape Winds now has a newish owner and lives on the south shore. Sorry old buddy!